It’s back to school season! We parents are getting prepared to send our children off to school. We are buying school supplies and new clothes. Slowly but surely we are making adjustments to our children’s sleep schedules-all in an effort to get our young ones prepared for a more structured day. But while we are preparing our kids for the imminent shift a new school year brings, most of us adults are still trying to cling to our regular daily routines.
We love our schedules and routines, don’t we? But even those of us who hold on to a routine can get tired of the same old thing. We think to ourselves, “A change would be nice.” But in our positive ruminations about change, we sometimes forget that change can also bring internal conflicts and fears to the surface. In the face of these feelings, we shy away from the idea of doing something different. We get anxious and even back out when it comes to initiating a change. Our fear of failure kicks in full speed. The next thing you know, we’re talking ourselves out of doing whatever it is that we have set out to do. Have you caught yourself saying:
- I am too busy to try it out.
- I am too old to start this now.
- This will never work out.
- If I do that I will look foolish.
Do you recognize these thoughts? Are you guilty of saying these things to yourself when change is near?
I look to reality shows when I need an extra push towards embracing the unknown and the new. We’ve all seen bits and pieces of those daredevil shows where ordinary people are challenged to do something spontaneous and unfamiliar. Our natural inclination is to shy away, to take a step (or a few steps) back from the task. I laugh to myself when I think of the young people in my life who would take on these challenges willingly and fearlessly. My six year old would eat a bug or swing through the trees of some random jungle with a smile on his face. So what is my hold up? What is our hold up?
Like our kids, we need to learn to take a leap of faith. Too often we give our anxieties too much control and doing so prevents us from opening the door to life’s most amazing experiences. We must remain open-minded and willing to allow some fluidity into our daily routines and into our lives as a whole–embracing all that change brings and eliminating the negative self-talk along the way. Combat negatives thoughts with positive ones. Encourage yourself by saying:
- I will make the time. (And pick a date!)
- I have the experience to handle this!
- It will work out and if not, I will try again!
- I am proud of me and that’s all that matters!
These thoughts are not only positive but they instill self-confidence. So, if you’ve always wanted to write a book, shake things up a bit and start writing! If going back to school has always been at the back of your mind, sign up for a few courses. Every school year our children excitedly embark upon a new and challenging journey. Let’s learn from them and just go for it.