National Health Month is intended as a reminder of the necessity for self-reflection and change. During this month, we are inspired to set goals and to remain persistent in the pursuit of good health. One aspect of good health that we cannot ignore is the importance of developing and maintaining a healthy self-esteem.
Self-esteem has to do with how you regard yourself-how much self-love you possess. Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities. When your self-esteem increases, so does your self-confidence. Both factors contribute to your ability to achieve your health goals.
Know that you will reach your healthy self-esteem goals by:
- Deciding what is really meaningful to you in life, rather than keeping up appearances
- Enjoying success but not taking it (or failure) too seriously. You are not what you achieve.
- Being honest about your strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has weaknesses, including the person you think is better or has it easier than you.
- Knowing what you have to offer the world/finding life meaning and purpose
- Claiming your assertiveness. Learning to speak up in a healthy way will prevent negative feelings from building internally. You will be less stressed, depressed, and anxious if you practice assertiveness
Remember that there will never be another you. Your unique combination of personality, temperament, talents and abilities – will never be duplicated. And that is a gift to you and to the world. Think about that!
Do you tend to discount your abilities with any of the following phrases:
“I’m such a…”
“I should have…”
“If I hadn’t…I would have…”
STOP. Ask yourself, “Would I say these things to a friend?” If your answer is no (and you will most likely answer no) why then would you say such things to yourself? Stop! Let the negative self-talk end today.
Have you heard yourself lately? What is that voice saying? Put an end to the negative self-talk. See Elicia McIntyre’s post for ways to conquer negative self-talk. Also, join us on Facebook and share the ways in which you have built your self-esteem.
Melissa Brooks-Cuffee holds two Bachelors degrees from Towson University: one in Psychology, the other in English. She is a member of the Psi Chi and Lambda Iota Tau honor fraternities, and is currently pursuing a Master of Fine Arts degree from the University of Baltimore. Melissa has assumed various administrative roles within the healthcare and mental healthcare field and maintains the positions of Administrative Assistant and Scheduling Coordinator at The Stone Foundation.
Elicia McIntyre, a licensed clinical social worker, and graduate of Smith College School for Social Work, has 15 years’ experience providing counseling to adults, children and families in the Baltimore-Washington metro area. She has helped clients navigate life transitions, depression, anxiety and relationship difficulties. She has spent the past 3 years traveling nationally and overseas, providing education and intervention to military service members and their families.
This article is intended for general education purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional counseling or medical care. If you are interested in seeking professional counseling, please contact The Stone Foundation by clicking here, or by phone at 410-296-2004.